All in the Family
I recently, (like yesterday) had a family member come completely unglued towards me. It was probably one of the ugliest interactions I have ever had with another human being. Some of the things that were said were so hurtful that I am still reeling and feeling sort of like I have been run over by a truck. The supposed perception of me couldn’t be more wrong and I am simply in shock, disbelief and heartache.
So, it made me think. If I had been a total stranger would these things have been said to me? My guess would be no. Somehow, we save all of our politeness and formality for the outside world to get ahead or get what we want and then go home and treat our kids and our spouses or someone else in our family with disdain, hatred, malice or criticism. After all, aren’t they supposed to love us how we are, flaws and all?
I would imagine that it is this attitude that causes so many marriages to fail and so many friendships to seem disposable and so much dysfunction in our families.
I am heartbroken at the realization that even though I may be able to find forgiveness for this individual, (through the Grace of Jesus) that our relationship is forever altered. I can never get back the level of respect and trust I once had with this person.
So, my point in writing all of this is to say; guard carefully your relationship with your family. I give thanks to God that I went through this experience that I might too learn this lesson. Hold your tongue and make every effort to show them the love that Jesus shows to us. Think carefully the impact your words have on the people you love.
well said, well said.
not sure what is going on, but wanted to offer hugs. ((HUGS))